So why am I making plans including him? Why am I organizing my life in a way that can include him when he is not doing the same for me?

I'm still being foolish. I should make my plans with or without him. If he wants to slot himself into them, he is SO SO welcome to. But I can't keep making efforts like this for someone who doesn't want to be involved with me, "right now".

He just doesn't feel it enough.